Marriage is often described as a laddoo "Jo khaaye pachtaaye and Jo naa khaaye wo bhi pachtaaye". Today is end of my first month of staying in this holi pious god-approved alliance.
For most of my life I have stayed alone, moved as per my will and whims. So entering in a partnership is a novel experience. Thankfully, my solitary existence has taught me some crucial lessons to deal with the bumps, breaks and speed of this new journey. With God's grace, things are pretty good for me till now. But there are learnings everyday. So here I am listing the initial little impression of eating this laddoo and best way to digest it.
1. No expectations: keep no expectations or dreams. Marriage is nothing but cohabitation of two people for long term. Do not bank on your partner to take care of you.
2. Me-time: Keep a me time come what may. List your must and must nots and do not compromise on that. Set your daily tasks which you enjoy and perform them. At the same time make some space for your partner and do not let her feel isolated or alone.
3. Love is fools game. Care is right word. If you are living in the world of Romeo Juliet and heer ranjha then you are mistaken. There is nothing called LOVE. Caring for your partner, and being affectionate is more appropriate phrase to describe the bond between two people living together as part of social arrangement.
4. There is no running away: once in a wedlock, there is no running away. So you got to experience it. Better do it with fun and joy.
5. Do not become liability: make sure you are not becoming a liability in any sense on your partner. "Khud dhoiye and khud khujaiye" is a better mantra for long term sustainable relationship.
Having said this, I must say it is good to have some one by your side and I am sure there are many more flavours of Laddoo I am yet to taste.
For most of my life I have stayed alone, moved as per my will and whims. So entering in a partnership is a novel experience. Thankfully, my solitary existence has taught me some crucial lessons to deal with the bumps, breaks and speed of this new journey. With God's grace, things are pretty good for me till now. But there are learnings everyday. So here I am listing the initial little impression of eating this laddoo and best way to digest it.
1. No expectations: keep no expectations or dreams. Marriage is nothing but cohabitation of two people for long term. Do not bank on your partner to take care of you.
2. Me-time: Keep a me time come what may. List your must and must nots and do not compromise on that. Set your daily tasks which you enjoy and perform them. At the same time make some space for your partner and do not let her feel isolated or alone.
3. Love is fools game. Care is right word. If you are living in the world of Romeo Juliet and heer ranjha then you are mistaken. There is nothing called LOVE. Caring for your partner, and being affectionate is more appropriate phrase to describe the bond between two people living together as part of social arrangement.
4. There is no running away: once in a wedlock, there is no running away. So you got to experience it. Better do it with fun and joy.
5. Do not become liability: make sure you are not becoming a liability in any sense on your partner. "Khud dhoiye and khud khujaiye" is a better mantra for long term sustainable relationship.
Having said this, I must say it is good to have some one by your side and I am sure there are many more flavours of Laddoo I am yet to taste.
